The Rest of the Advanced Speech Tips
OK—so last week’s post included some out-of-the-box tips for prepping for a speech. This week, I’ll wrap up the topic with some tips on what to do before, during and after the speech. Here goes:
Wear something that will focus attention on your face. This means no loud colors, no busy prints, no big designer logos, no (please) cleavage. Don’t wear anything with metal buttons that will clank on the lectern or podium while you’re speaking. The same goes for long metal necklaces.
If this is going to be an after dinner speech, be sure that the wait staff won’t be clearing dishes while you’re speaking – it’s very distracting.
The podium should be as close to the audience as possible and the microphone (if there is one) should be pointed right at your chin. Note the height of the person who is speaking right before you and decide if you’ll need to adjust the microphone height when it’s your turn.
Don’t start speaking right away– take a few seconds to survey the room, smile, and do whatever else it is you need to do to engage the audience. Merely looking at the audience without speaking is a great way to quiet everyone down. Then stand straight, distribute your weight equally on both feet, and start speaking.
Be sure you have a handkerchief. Nervousness tends to make noses run and bright lights make eyes water. Don’t use tissues because there’s no good way for a speaker to handle a used one. Whether you leave it on the podium or put it in your pocket – it’s gross. When you’re done fold the handkerchief in half and put it back in your pocket.
When you’ve finished speaking, linger at the podium for a few seconds so that it doesn’t look like you’re in a hurry to get the whole thing over with.
So where are you Supposed to Look?
Don’t sweep and skim audience members with your eyes and don’t look over their heads. If you do, it will look like you followed a formula that you learned at Toastmasters the one time you attended back in the 199
Instead, look at an audience member every time you make a point and look at that member for the entire time you are making the point (probably 30 seconds or less). It doesn’t have to be a different member every time, just be sure you aren’t staring at one person the entire time.
Also, don’t look at anyone while you’re pausing between points – it makes people squirm. Instead, look at your papers or at the visuals.
Finally, try not to turn your back on the audience. This can be tricky if you have visuals you need to work with during your speech.
Dealing with Panic
Limit or burn off nervous energy ahead of time. The standard advice is to get a full night’s sleep before you give a speech. Experience says, you’re better off with less – nothing builds a storehouse of energy like sleep. You’ll actually feel more relaxed if you’re slightly sleep deprived. Also, consider going for a long run, walk, or working out at the gym. Another trick to burn off energy that works very well is, prior to the speech, perform an activity that makes you nervous – take care of a difficult situation, have lunch with someone that makes you tense, do some cold-calling, etc.
The simple trick for dealing with panic is to look directly at audience members – intensify your contact. I find that the number one cause of nervousness is the disorienting feeling of speaking to a large group without any verbal feedback. So another way to cut nervousness is to ask for feedback. Pose a question and start a brief discussion. Have a few questions ready in case you start feeling nervous.
Also, consider doing anything that will take the focus off you. Those handouts that you were going to distribute after the speech – if you start feeling nervous, ask someone to pass them out then. This is generally a no-no because, theoretically, you don’t want the audience to stop focusing on you – but if it helps, do it.
Finally – have a semi-graceful exit planned in advance just in case you can’t get through the speech. You see guests on talk shows do it all the time. I’ve been fighting the flu and I need to leave – thank you so much for understanding, etc. You won’t see this advice in any speech book and the chances are extremely slim that you’ll ever have to use it, but just knowing that a comet won’t destroy the Earth if you leave early takes the pressure off.
Bear in mind that the audience actually wants you to succeed because we all understand how difficult it is to give a speech. Consider this: a few years ago, astronaut Gulon Bluford Jr. was giving the graduation speech at Jefferson University in Philadelphia. About 20 minutes into it, he collapsed in front of 2,200 people. After a few minutes, he returned to the podium and finished his speech – the audience gave him a standing ovation (wouldn’t you?).
Jerry Seinfeld once observed that since the number one universal fear is giving a speech and the number two fear is death, most people would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy – this puts everything in perspective.
Never tell the audience you’re nervous, but acknowledge anything else that’s out of order and obvious so that the audience doesn’t focus on that. Something like, I’m sure you’ve noticed the cast on my arm – I wish I could say it happened while I was skiing, but actually it happened when I was putting Christmas lights on the house.
During the speech, if you make a minor mistake, let it go – if it’s major, restate it correctly.
If you’ve rarely - if ever - given a speech before, practice by talking to yourself in front of the mirror for five minutes a day. I know this sounds silly, but as I mentioned earlier, one of the things that scares people the most about giving a speech is that feeling of disorientation when they speak, but are not spoken to in return. The mirror practice helps you get used to that feeling.
If you don’t cling to the podium and make it a point to free your hands up, your arms and hands will move naturally as you speak. Having a podium actually allows more flair. Think of the drama when the speaker moves away from the podium for a few seconds. Also, standing next to the podium is very effective.
The real key to engaging all audience members is breaking the illusion of separation between you and them – you want to have a deep, powerful presence while appearing relaxed – seems simple enough.